PUSHED THE SEND BUTTON! BIRTHLETTER

It is finally finished! My biggest, hardest letter to ever write is sent. Now I wait for editing errors to be caught like a fish and brought up to my attention. It's only gone through three people, whom are tooooo close to say anything. My sister did a great job! I just hope that I changed all she brought to my attention.   I'm nervous and yet still feel as though it wasn't the best. But that is me! Nothing seems strong enough to say to the most HEROIC person ever, the BIRTH PARENT/S. So now I ask, for you to pray for all people who will read this letter, to capture their hearts and give them a glimpse into our love for children and  for our final approval, we are yet to know. Blessings until next time!

Mindy Opitz

Loving Organization!

Loving people working with women to help during their difficult journey........

This organization is a Christian, loving, friendly approach to adoption. 

We are so blessed and can't wait to see them to 100 years!

Abilene Christian Homes

If you know someone that is looking to adopt, foster or place a child, this is the answer!

What words to use?

BLESSINGS: This blog is about my thoughts of the Birth Letter! My feelings only!


This Birth Letter is so difficult. Difficult doesn't even hit the hammer on the nail to explain. No Words seem emotionally strong enough to tell your Future child's birth mother what you and your loving husband are like and what you can provide the child's future. I think everyone should have to write a Birth Letter the the Lord....Hmmm how many people could handle this letter?

The wording is the most challenging! I feel like I'm trying to write for a book for the Chicken Lover Soul! You know those stories that are touching, that capture your heart and drain your body of all the water you have consumed in the last month. That is the PROBLEM...I never feel completely as if it is perfect, and I know the only person perfect is the Lord. But yet, I want the Birth Mother to know me for me, Our hearts yearning for a child and our families praying daily for us.

You don't want to hurt the mother by saying we will raise our child...or do you say that so they will know you consider the child, yours? Awkward! And then you read the Adoption Birth letter Manual on the web and your still overwhelmed...So I've prayed, asked for prayers, and I think I might be done!

My loving husband just walked in and said, "It's the best letter." As sweet as he is, I still think I need to reread and rewritten!! One million times better. Only if I could wave a magic stick over the computer and say Birth letter be done! POOF....and it is done! I would say out of all of the papers asking why, what we are like, what we are able to deal and not deal with in life, this has and will always remain the struggle to me. The Birth Letter.....
You open your heart and poor your soul in a short letter, only to feel open to the world as it hits the space of the wide world web!!! I ask you, if you had to write a letter what would you say? How would it be worded to the future mother of your precious Miracle? Blessings!
Until the next Blog,,,,,,,,,,,Please pray for me to have an open heart to fill my heart with the correct and wonderful words of wisdom and love to flow onto the paper/pc! And for us to show our true person for who we are day to day. This is the Bible verse I found to help me!
 Deuteronomy 31:6

"Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you."

Mindy Opitz

Waiting on our Approval!

As we past the time, I continually walk by a baby isle and wonder...hmmm what will it be like on the day we get the call. Will we be ready? As most parents say, you're never really ready! But God does prepare your heart and you will naturally know exactly what to do or how to handle things. But that is from the majority that have had nine months with child aboard to prepare and get things exactly as they needed. They didn't go to meet the mother or father, birth parents to be given the best gift ever. More than the Best Gift you will ever receive..I can't imagine the feeling yet, it only makes me weep. Thinking of being happy and then sad for the mother, waiting for this day I don't know exactly what to prepare. Except I know He, The Good Lord will do a miracle. As he has done many times before!

So as we wait for approval, I continually say my sweet prayer to help me write this Birth Mother Letter, that will be read by a God sent Angel to us! You never know exactly what to say or how, but I'm asking the Lord to be the driving force of using our hearts and heads to come up with something heartfelt and loving.
I know I have said this many times before in this Blog, but adopting has brought us closer to one another and to the Lord's Love! This is an emotional roller coaster, almost like being pregnant! Although I would like to claim that is the reason I look like I'm 9 months!

 LOL  As I log off today, I'm going to try to attempt the Lord to help me speak to this woman and or man. And to finish our adoption book. These are the next things I need to turn in. If you are thinking about adoption. I ask you to pray and let God's desire open your heart and mind to this wonderful opportunity. Secondly, know it is a journey, but without the journey it wouldn't be worth the glorious wait.

May your day be filled with a blessing. As many things are worth waiting for in Life! Here is the agency that has helped many mothers find what they are looking to do with their Miracles.
http://www.christianhomes.com/

LAST HOME STUDY!

HOME STUDY-   JAN 29, 2013

Last home study when well! We are so blessed with our case worker. She is so down to earth and went over basics for me...Like BONDING and the first days and at the hospital emotions..

PURE PANIC

Derek wanted to ask if we could have one each week. I know this is the thought going through his mind! So the house would be kept extremely neat and tidy! AND SPOTLESS!!! As if we were hosting a PARTY. I was praying he wouldn't ask her that.. Still I wanted to clean more....The floors weren't clean enough for me...and my other things not Perfect!

Before the day....I was, freaking out, not Derek. He doesn't panic at anything!

I was really freaking out. I even cleaned closet to only know she didn't have to go in. I left the door opened and even offered. Our time was originally scheduled for earlier, lunch time...So I went and bought things for lunch but then it got moved. But I did make tea and lemonade and cookies. NONE of which we needed anyway until she left. I devoured the ENTIRE PLATE OF COOKIES.... Since I was so emotionally drained.

You don't realize how much you worry mentally about what things you are going to be asked. So you pray, pray so more and then it's over and you are drained from worrying. I felt the next day from cleaning and worrying that I had been hit by a mad truck and the questions weren't even bad. We just recapped most of what we had discussed the first. WHICH WAS A LOT!!! She told us we had covered most of the information in our first session. We didn't have BIG issues. I should hope not. She did tell us, many people have a few things to iron out before adoption. Thank goodness the Lord has placed us on the same page. 

MEETING RANGER

She met Ranger, our dog. Yes, I warned her he gets excited and might just show his love by weeing on her! AND HE did....all over her darling, black heals!! Thank goodness I knew right were I had placed the baby wipes. I apologized for his bladder. She told me not to worry. I though, was IN PANIC!!! Freaking out!!! Trying to get Ranger to just chase his toys..  

The TALK

Then sitting across the room on our couch, you think you would feel so relaxed; I felt open and not knowing how to sit to talk to this kind lady while she explained the LEGAL stuff to me more...I think Derek felt worried when  he saw the tears in my eyes feel up as she explained the Birth Day and emotions..Then the tears came on.  Derek came to my rescue by sitting by my side. I could only imagine giving up the most precious gift of a child to someone.... It made me sad at once, and joyous at another that someone could be able and willing to give a better life. not better, but more opportunities to a child. It was hard to imagine this day will come, when we least expect it...May not be soon, or may be soon.

I think that is why I was so worn out the next day. So what is next you ask?

WAITING FOR APPROVAL!!! After she dictates our information then we wait.

It goes before a board at Abilene Christina Homes, and they approve or not...

What do I need to do?

 Get my adoption scrapbook finished  and the Hardest letter the BirthMother Letter, BML!!! This is the letter you send to mothers looking to place their child for adoption. Hardest job ever!!!

Wait and pray...until next blog....Please keep our Birth Mother and her family in your prayers, God knows who and when. Hugs

The Waiting Opitz's Family!

Christian Homes & Family Services | Abilene, TX | Dallas/Fort Worth ... www.christianhomes.com/   

Prayer Room

Taking a break from the cleaning to write today!

Thought of the day, please answer by posting below!!! I've only received one post...So sad..

If there was one thing you wish you knew before you became a parent, what would it have been?

I often wonder, the when, where, who will be there...those kind of questions. What will the Birth mother be like, will she like us? Thoughts cross my mind often. Then I have to remember God is in control of this situation, if we were having our own biological child... I again, would have to leave all the worrying to him. 

I hope keeping in my mind the 2 year window I keep telling people, we should get a child by them..is truly just to hold my mind off, and then if a child comes earlier it will be more of a blessing and a surprise!

So yesterday I cleaned out the nursery, still I can't seem to part with my favorite couch, so one day it will end up in the black hole upstairs, that isn't finished! But for now I think it will be my prayer couch in the soon to be nursery. I mean in two years!

I think I will go there to think and pray. I've been looking for a sign to make for a frame, stating we are waiting for our family to grow, waiting on a child to fill joy in this room. 

If anyone has any good ideas about a unisex room, please let me know. I start making my first baby blanket in the morning. 

Hugs and blessings!